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For the Love of Jeremy

By Terri Arnett

“Hey Mom?” 

“Yeees…?” my usual reply. 

Only this time I shout, Jeremy!  Say it!  Say, “Hey Mom?” just one more time. 

This time the words I shout are in my head and not from my son.  Instead, he lies in a coma.  Two IV stands tower like sentries by his bed.  More machines are hooked up to him than I ever knew existed, his body swollen far beyond normal.  The doctors give him less than a five percent chance of survival.

The date: June 24, 2002.  Our church in Dallas had contracted a chartered bus to take our youth group to LSU for church camp.  At 9:10AM, the bus veered off the interstate crashing into the bridge support pillars.  The driver and four teenagers died instantly, the scene rivaling any CSI episode. 

The impact ripped the bus in two, wrapping the left-side paneling around the first pillar like a blanket.  Five seats back, Jeremy was hurled through where the left side of the bus used to be, landing inches from the deadly pillars.  His twisted and broken body lies motionless in a burning concoction of diesel fuel, battery acid, brake and hydraulic fluids, while emergency crews gave attention to others, believing he was dead.  Miraculously, the youth leader finds him clinging to life and he is life-flighted to Tyler, Texas.

When I arrive in the ER, his prognosis is grim: his right foot had been turned completely around; his right femur is broken in two; his ribs, left forearm, and left foot are broken; his lungs collapsed; his spleen ruptured; he has suffered severe brain trauma to the right frontal lobe; the fourth and fifth discs in his neck are fractured; chemical burns cover forty percent of his body; his pelvis is broken in four places; over time, he will require 30 units of blood and 34 units of plasma/platelets.  Then, I’m handed a pager so I can tell him good-bye.

That evening, I am surrounded by people telling me not to be afraid; it will be all right—all the things that people say at a time like this.  Only it prompts everything I’ve held inside to come rushing out like a dam that has broken.  I scream, “I’m not afraid!  All I hear is not to be afraid!  I’m not!  I’m angry!”  I then begin to pace back and forth, getting louder and becoming more outraged.  “Why did this happen to Jeremy?  Why did this happen to ANY of those kids?”  Then in my most sarcastic voice, with flailing gestures, I yell, “Oh.  I’m sorrieee…I’m having trouble with, ‘It will be all right!’” 

All anyone can do is politely turn their eyes away because I cannot get a grip.  A friend takes my hand telling me, “You need to come with me.”  She leads me to a private room and once inside says, “You have too many people around.  You need some space and you need to cry.”  No problem there.

That day forever changed our lives.  Although I somehow knew Jeremy would live and not die, his recovery would be a long, grueling, journey – and it was.  I also knew that the anger that I felt, left unattended, would produce hate.  Standing by his bedside, as I earnestly prayed for his life, I realized my love for him was greater than the anger towards the driver.  For Jeremy to fully recover, I had to release my anger because if I didn’t, it would be transferred from mother to son, and I could not allow our lives to be permanently scarred by one man’s fatal choices.

In an act of obedience to God’s Word, I chose to release the anger that had held me hostage:  anger towards the driver, who due to drugs and lack of sleep, killed four teenagers; anger towards a man whose actions mangled my son’s body so badly he was left for dead; anger towards a man I’ll never meet; anger towards a dead man. 

In return, I received life and healing in every crevice of my wounded heart, setting me free to share our miracle story without sorrow, hatred or anger.  Free to help others.

www.terriarnett.com

Copyright Terri Arnett




     

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